Love is compared indirectly to ampalaya. Lovers are caught in situations like quarrels, misunderstandings and arguments that sometimes lead to break ups and heartaches. One of the lovers or maybe both may feel BITTER about the situation.
Kawawang gulay. Walang kamalay-malay na gulay. Masustansyang gulay. Bakit? Everytime na may nakikita ako sa mga posts sa social media sites hindi ko maiwasang mapansin ang #ampalaya, lalo na sa mga nakaexperience ng hiwalayan. ‘Yung nang-iwan may nahanap agad kapalit kaya yung iniwan sobrang bitter sa situation. Pwede din namang naudlot na pag-ibig. Yung nanligaw pinaasa si nililigawan na gustong gusto siya. Then all of a sudden, mawawala ng parang bula, hindi na magpaparamdam. After a few days, makikita ni nililigawan si manliligaw na may pinopormahan ng iba. Actually, napakarami pang iba’t ibang situation ang nakakaranas ng bitterness. Pero kawawang gulay, damay.
Come to think of it, love, by default, is bitter. Parang ampalaya. Kung baguhan pa lang sa kusina, hindi pa talaga alam kung paano ang proseso ng tamang pagluluto ng ampalaya. Trial and error. Experiment. Through time and experience, mahahanap na ang tamang technique sa pagluluto. Balang araw, hindi na mapait ang resulta. May sarili at kakaibang sarap na hatid.
by Khalil Gibran
Then Almitra spoke again and said, “And what of Marriage, master?”
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
I just want to share my favorite section in Khalil Gibran’s The Prophet.
I got the chance to read this book back in 2003 during my Senior Year in highschool. During that time, I had a vague definition of what marriage is. My teacher did a great job in trying to explain this section of the book. However, it is hard to understand marriage on a point of view of a teenager.
Now that I am married, I read through this section again. I can say that I have a better understanding of what it feels to be married.
There are certain things that should be remembered and be kept reminded from the past, and use it as a key to the future.